Porn is about male fantasy. The fantasy is that women like everything you do to them, as man.
So how does this translate into real life? Women spend a lot of time and energy trying to please men. We learn early on that we are being looked at – that we are to be looked at. That we are performers. It took years before I actually started enjoying sex. YEARS. I think what I enjoyed most about sex, when I was younger, was the feeling of being desired. The actual sex part was super boring for the first while.
We learn, as girls and women, that the performance is more important than the actual feeling.
I actually like Sansa, but I’d just like to speak up on behalf of those who dislike her and are being labeled misogynists and say that no, she is not disliked because she is a female who acts like a female (“Everybody likes Arya because she tries to be one of the boys!”). She is disliked because, at least in the beginning, she is naive, haughty, and a little bit dense.I’m sure there are actual misogynists out there who dislike her for the reasons mentioned, but I’m getting a little tired of the relatively widespread distaste for her character being used as a jumping point for feminist proselytizing. There are, in fact, more innocuous reasons to dislike the character. Please stop labeling everyone who’s in that group. There are much more valid feminist arguments to make - this one is just an easy target because it’s a character in a popular television and book series.
Fus Roh Dah by ~vani
skryim confessions: excuse me as i get STABBED, BURNED, OTHERWISE RIDICULOUSLY EASILY INJURED around these sexxxxxxy felt straps.